How to Involve Dad's During Pregnancy and After Birth

You have likely heard that children will wreck your marriage. When asked why this is the case, most will bring up how demanding and annoying children can be. When your children take over your life, is there room for your husband or wife? The good news is that your relationship with your spouse can increase with each child you have together.

You must be intentional. If you are cruising on the ship of life without intention, the waves will come crashing down on you and your family. We have to watch the weather forecast and be aware of what can harm our family relationships. One thing to be aware of is that women tend to feel more connected with their newborns than men. This is because the child is physically a part of the woman. They spend an entire 38 weeks carrying this baby and feeling them kick and wiggle around inside of them. When women are pregnant, they have surges of oxytocin that assist in the strong bonding that takes place before and during birth. On the other hand, the father is likely stressed about the responsibility of providing for and protecting their child. It is difficult to have a connection with someone that brings so much stress to your life.

To reduce stress and increase connection, soon-to-be moms can involve their husbands during pregnancy by telling them what it feels like to be pregnant. Men need to be included in the prenatal visits. They can hear their child's heartbeat and get a better sense of what is going on inside their wife's womb. The woman's body provides nourishment and protection for the child. A man can assist his wife in caring for their unborn child by caring for her. Husbands could give their wives massages to reduce the ache of their restless legs. Fathers can talk to their unborn babies. A baby's sense of hearing starts to develop in the womb. They can hear sounds outside of the womb at six months. By the time the child is born, their hearing is acute. They can even identify their mother's voice. If the father talks to his child in the womb or reads books to them, the child can better recognize their voice.

You have likely heard that who you date is who you marry. However, we need to focus more on how we are dating and what steps are taken towards marriage. Proposals have become a way to show off on Instagram. The bigger the ring the better, right? The more money you spend on a ring and on the wedding itself, the less likely your marriage will last. Do not have a wedding that is just for show. When the show is over, you will be in a house with your husband. Your husband is the one that you will spend forever with, not your thousand-dollar ice sculpture. Make the day about your spouse and invite the people that are closest to you. Having a simple wedding can be a great way to start your marriage on the right foot.

Do not spend so much money before you get married. You will end up with loans and credit bills to pay off years after your wedding. Instead, set a budget for your wedding ceremony and reception. Make sure that you have a savings account and an emergency fund going into marriage. This will decrease your financial stress. Higher financial stress can lead to arguments and even divorce. When you think about things with both eyes on your future, you will see that you really don't need to spend hundreds of dollars on your bouquet.